Wednesday, November 4, 2009


One of my favorite shows is the Gilmore Girls. It is a show full of crazy people all living in the same small town. Tonight a clip from that show popped into my head that I want to share. In this particular show Luke (main dude) is talking to his well meaning, but nutty sister about life philosophy. His sister has recently decided that she is going to live by a new life motto "come what may." She goes onto explain that this means no matter what happens, "come what may" let it happen. If a bus is about to hit you let it hit you. Luke tries to explain to her why this is a bad idea, but to no avail. She continues on in her "come what may" thinking.
Often in my life I have a "come what may" thinking when it comes to relationships. Drama, fighting or disagreement starts and all the sudden my back bone disappears. I can no longer speak, I just want to agree so that what the drama can end. I want to keep the peace. I am a drama hating, "come what may," peace keeper. The problem with this is I don't serve a drama free, "come what may" God. He is quite the opposite.
God is so passionate about upholding righteousness He turns the tables in the temple, He calls Peter satan, He uses the term brood of vipers regularly. He has a serious back bone and He is not about being a peace keeper. He is a peace maker. Recently, we studied the B attitudes and one thing that resonated in my spirit was the difference between a peace maker and a peace keeper. A peace keep is someone who will to anything to stop the drama and make everyone happy. A peace maker is the person willing to search for the root of the issue, even when it stirs the pot, in order for peace to dwell.
In relationships we are given to options to be peace keepers or peace makers. We can tell people what they want to hear or what God needs them to hear. I am not saying go out and speak everything that is on your mind. That is just dumb. What I am saying is that if you want a life full of meaningful relationships you have to be willing to speak up from time to time and sharpen one another. You have to be willing do go through the ugly process of making peace rather than keeping peace.
Matthew 5:9 "Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called sons of God."